When you are envious over what someone else has, this can affect your self-esteem and potentially lead to anxiety and depression. Guest blogger Mike Lerchenfeldt writes about how to break this cycle.
By Mike Lerchenfeldt
Meant to Live Contributor
The intertwining threads of jealousy, stress, and depression can form a suffocating web that affects mental well-being. Jealousy, often stemming from insecurity, can trigger a chain reaction of stressful thoughts and physiological responses that lead to depressive states.
"Jealousy is a form of fear, and fear is a major stressor,” says Dr. Ramani Durvasula, California State University professor. “When you're constantly in a state of fear, your body produces cortisol, which negatively affects both your physical and mental health."
This chronic stress, driven by perceived threats to relationships or status, can result in ongoing anxiety and a feeling of helplessness. I recall a time when various forms of jealousy consumed me. Comparing my progress to that of others, I became fixated on perceived inequalities.
This constant mental churn triggered sleepless nights, racing thoughts, and a pervasive sense of inadequacy that contributed to stress, manifested as physical tension and emotional exhaustion, eventually leading to a period of depressive symptoms. The relentless focus on what I lacked created a negative feedback loop, amplifying feelings of worthlessness.
This experience aligns with research showing that social comparison, a major part of jealousy, can contribute to depressive symptoms. Comparing oneself to others fosters feelings of inadequacy, erodes self-esteem, and creates fertile ground for depression to grow.
Breaking this cycle requires addressing the underlying insecurities that drive jealousy. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and counseling can be a valuable tool, aiding individuals in identifying and challenging negative thought patterns. Mindfulness practices can also promote a sense of self-compassion, which diminishes the tendency for harsh self-judgment.
Recognizing and acknowledging the emotional distress linked to jealousy is a crucial step toward healing and fostering healthier relationships with oneself and others. For me, this path is deeply intertwined with my faith. I believe God created us to be the ‘best version of ourselves,’ not 'better than' our neighbor. Accepting and embracing this has been my most helpful first step!
 ABOUT THE AUTHOR Mike Lerchenfeldt is a freelance writer and middle school teacher from metro Detroit. This Dad of two likes exploring places and supporting local businesses. Through teacher exchanges, he has traveled to Japan and New Zealand. |
When you are envious over what someone else has, this can affect your self-esteem and potentially lead to anxiety and depression. Guest blog...
