Eighth-grader loses life to suicide in Southgate; sometimes the signs aren't obvious
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Officials say he was a good student and somewhat popular and that no one suspected he would harm himself, reports The Oakland Press. Students and staff said that the boy did not appear to have any problems with anyone.
Hearing the story broke my heart. He was barely even a teenager and had so much of his life left. And now we will never know what the future of this teenager, whose name has not yet been released, would have held.
I know that many times we think that people with depression will have a big flashing neon sign over their heads, alerting others that they are contemplating suicide. The truth is that many people contemplating suicide hide their feelings. This could be one of the reasons suicide seems like the only option — because they keep their emotions built up inside until, one day, they explode.
According to SAVE (Suicide Awareness Voices of Education), sometimes people with depression can't even see the signs and symptoms themselves. Many times people suffering from depression appear to be happy just prior to the suicide attempt. Many times, people suffering from depression are afraid to tell other people for fear of appearing "crazy" or "weak" (and neither one of these adjectives is true).
In children, SAVE reports that depression can be disguised as school phobia or school avoidance, social phobia, excessive separation anxiety, running away, obsessions or compulsions. Depression is something that's miserable for adults to deal with -- but imagine being only 13 and having to handle these strong emotions.
Here are some other signs of depression in children:
-Uncontrollable anger or destructive behavior
-Easily frustrated, low self-confidence, overly sensitive
-Slowed or disorganized speech
-Dizziness, headaches, stomach aches
No matter your age, if you feel any of these symptoms, don't be afraid to talk to someone about this.