There are many stereotypes about mental illness — like wrongly thinking that someone is able to just "get over it." But, like phy...
I don't know about you, but one rumor I have heard of is that birth control can cause mood disorders. Which, to me, is a big side effect.
And it made me wonder — do women have to choose between not having children…and being happy?
So I decided to do some research on this. Does birth control really cause depression?
According to the latest research, the answer is no.
American Journal of Epidemiology looked at birth control use and depressive symptoms in 6,654 sexually active women between the ages of 24 and 34 from 1994 to 2008. And Women's Health Magazine reports that those taking hormonal contraception had lower levels of depressive symptoms and were less likely to report a suicide in the past year.
Dr. Katherine Keyes, lead study author, told Reuters, “This counters somewhat some of the prevailing wisdom that hormone contraceptive use in general is associated with adverse mental health outcomes in women. When you look at it on a national scale, certainly there’s no evidence that at a population level hormonal contraceptive use is associated with an increased risk of mood problems.”
But although Keys says that birth control doesn't cause thoughts of suicide — she doesn't deny that a side effect of birth control could be mood swings — which she says is a lot different than depression.
I know some women who say that, when they started taking a new birth control, they would start crying out of the blue, for no reason. To me, this makes sense. After all, changing the levels of estrogen and progestin in your body is bound to have more effects than just on your reproductive organs.
Birth control is one of the most commonly used prescription drugs — taken by more than 10 million women across the nation. It's used t...
I think this is one desire that most people in the world share.
Yes, to be loved, but, I think even more than that, is to be accepted -- just as you are.
We all have our weird quirks. I know that I have many, which probably couldn't even be counted on all my fingers and all my toes.
But one thing I have learned is that, although it is wonderful to have others accept you as you are, it is probably even more important to learn to accept yourself -- just as you are.
How can we expect others to accept us as we are if we don't do it ourselves? Instead, be proud of these quirks. They make you who you are. They make you unique. Stop trying to change the person you are and stop being ashamed.
Louise Watson wrote on the website tinybuddha.com, "It seems whatever personality you’ve got, you’re always going to be 'too much' of something for someone. ... When you learn to accept yourself, you’re likely to find that others will accept you too. But if they don’t, it really doesn’t matter."
In my favorite scene of the movie "Bridget Jones Diary," the character Mark Darcy tells her, "I like you very much. Just as...
The people sitting at a desk with their headsets on, taking a deep breath every time the phone rings, have one of the most important jobs....
Although I think this is something people should get into a habit of doing everyday, please, just for me, at least do it today.
Be thankful for things like the people you love, sunsets, clean water, a bathroom in your home and that your life isn't like an episode of "American Horror Story."
Here are some reasons people in the social media-verse feel thankful — including bacon, coffee and, my personal favorite — cats.
This Thanksgiving, I challenge you not to think of your misfortunes or the things you wish you had. Too often, we concentrate on the things ...
Darlene Lancer, author on Psych Central, describes autonomy as, being able to "govern your own life and that you endorse your actions."
"Your actions are determined by your beliefs, needs, and values, which give you more control over thoughts and emotions," she wrote.
I believe that independence is the key to happiness. Independence is a basic human need. Independence is, what I feel, is one of ...
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But, when you are feeling worthless, it's hard to convince yourself that these thoughts are unrealistic and illogical — a product of your depression. And whenever someone tries to convince you otherwise, you think they are lying to you.
Many people describe those who commit suicide as "selfish." But this is just not true. Most people who take their own lives are not in their right mind at the time. They think no one will miss them, and may even think that the world would be better off without them. The last thing on their minds is how their death really would affect those who love them. Because, at that moment, they think no one loves them.
I'm sure this is what 21-year-old Brenda Tucker of Eastpointe was feeling when she shot herself while at a Detroit bar at the end of October. She never could have foretold how her death would lead to a domino affect of tragedy.
Her brother Ricky raced to the hospital to be with his sister, not knowing that she was pronounced dead on arrival. The Macomb Daily reports that, while driving to the hospital, he crossed over the center line in the road and crashed into an SUV. He died on the way to the hospital.
In one day, Rose Tucker heard two things a mother should never have to hear. Two of her three children were dead. She told The Macomb Daily, “I lost my heart and my soul right there, in the hospital.”
Brenda probably thought her death wouldn't affect others. She probably didn't think anyone would miss her. Oh, how wrong she was.
Her brother was so worried about his sister that he put his own life on the line as he rushed to be with her. And their mother's life will now never be the same. Ever major life event, ever holiday will never be as happy as it once was without her two children there to enjoy them. Her life will always feel like something is missing. And nobody and nothing will ever completely be able to fill that space, no matter how much time passes.
Whenever you are depressed, consider this. If you die, this will directly affect the life of someone else.
Your death could end the life of another — whether it's by rushing to help you like this brother or causing those you care about to consider suicide as well. But even if your death doesn't cause the death of others, trust me, it will make others lives a lot worse. Not better, like you may think. Not at all.
Times when I'm feeling down on myself, when I think I'm worthless or I think negatively about the future, I have learned to think to myself, "You're being unrealistic. This is not real. Your brain is being your worst enemy. You would never think this about other people, so why the heck are you thinking this way about yourself? And you don't know what the future will hold, so stop trying to predict it!"
I think realizing these thought are unrealistic and realizing that, even if you don't believe it, people do actually care about you is the first step in saving your life.
Imagine getting a phone that the person you care about and love most in the world has just died. This is the same way those who love you will feel if this happened to you.
Remember this every time you think the world would be a better place without you.
The Macomb Daily/RAY J. SKOWRONEK A recent study shows that more than 80 percent of depressed people express self-dislike and see thems...
For me, I'm being my favorite red-haired character -- Ariel from "The Little Mermaid," of course, complete with the green fins and purple shells.
This year, Miley Cyrus, in her barely-there teddy bear outfit from the MTV Video Music Awards, is the most popular costume.
But for some people, every day they wish they were somebody else. They see others' lives as "better" than their own and wish their lives were more like that.
It's easy to say, "Just be yourself. Wanting to be someone else is a waste of time." But for someone who's in an abusive relationship, someone who can't afford basic neccessities such as food, someone who is constantly bullied, or someone who has never felt loved, it's easy to be envious of those who don't have to go through these things.
If you lost your job, how do you keep from wishing you were, instead, the neighbor down the street who owns a mansion?
But know that even those who seemingly have everything also spend much of their time comparing themselves to others. Even they, at times, wish they were someone else.
As perfect as a life may seem on the outside, we don't know what their life is like behind closed doors. Why else would so many models, who we all see as beautiful, be anorexic? Why else would so many celebrities, who we envy, be addicted to alcohol or drugs? Their lives are obviously not perfect.
I've always liked this quote by author Regina Brett: "If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back."
Others may read that quote, roll their eyes and think, "I would gladly take other people's problems over my own."
But life is not always fair. Those who deserve a million dollars may be broke and those who are corrupt may have money coming out the wazoo. Those who are kind on the inside may hate the way they look on the outside while someone considered "beautiful" is a selfish and cruel person on the inside. And someone who treats everyone with kindness may be in a relationship with an abusive man or woman who treats him or her with anything but respect. While, at the same time, a cheater may be in a relationship with an unsuspecting partner who treats him or her like a king or queen.
We don't have a magic genie in a lamp where we can *poof* magically become someone else — even if you do dress up like Aladdin this Halloween. And if you keep envying others and keep constantly wishing for another's life, this will just hurt you even more in the long run.
Instead, like the website Smart Fem suggests, work each day on becoming the best you can be. Work toward your own goals instead of wishing you had someone else's life. Run away from an abusive relationship instead of being envious of someone else's love life. And join a group or an extracurricular activity to meet friends, instead of being jealous of those who are "popular.
When you look at someone else's live and feel yourself becoming the green-eyed monster, stop and think, "Why does it matter what their life is like? They're not me." Focus on the here and now and, every day, count your blessings instead of focusing on what you feel like your life is lacking.
Halloween is one day each year where you can pretend to be someone you're not. For me, I'm being my favorite red-haired characte...
This site brings resources and services to help parents, schools, students and the community.
"An estimated 160,000 students stay out of school every day in the U.S. because they are afraid of being bullied. That's why this new resource is so critical", said Tracy Hjorth, a youth director at Orchard Grove Community church in Walled Lake.
In addition, questions can be directed to healthcare professionals whose expertise and skill is in working directly with bullies, victims of bullying, families, interventions and guidance on how to address these issues.
While this grass-roots effort began last March with an Oakland County focus, the website has both local and national resources, all aimed at building environments where bullying is not tolerated.
"I am very happy our community now has this all-inclusive site focused on supporting students, parents and schools", said Denise Finnerty, former high school teacher and business owner.
For more information, visit communityantibully.com.
October is National Anti-Bullying Month, and a consortium of health care workers, business professionals, social workers and youth minist...
Just this week, much media attention has been given to one woman, creating an Internet firestorm for doing just this — some even accusing her of using her bragging to bully others.
|Maria Kang was criticized for "bragging" in her |
When what you are saying about yourself is in turn making others feel badly about themselves, I think that's when it crosses the line into "bragging." And, as soon as you stop listening to others and only want to talk about yourself, then you've definitely taken a few steps across that imaginary line. As soon as you stop caring about others' good news, this is when people will stop caring about yours. And, when you only compliment yourself and never compliment others, people will stop complimenting you.
She writes that it is healthy to give yourself a mental pat on the back. Being confident and proud of your accomplishments helps prevent depression.
"You don’t have to hide your light completely under a bushel," said Whitbourne.
When we accomplish something or something good happens to us, we like to talk about it. After working hard to achieve a goal or having a dr...
I won't give her name out of respect to her family and friends.
I didn't know her very well. But I did talk to her on the phone a few times, and she attended a couple of the blog workshops I hosted. And, all day, all I've been able to picture is her face. And how alone she must have felt in that moment when she decided to pull the trigger.
As soon as I found out, I immediately looked at her blog to see if there were any signs she was contemplating suicide. Her last post was a couple days before she died and looked like it was copied and pasted from a press release.
This is the last thing she will ever put out into the world.
And it makes me feel sick. It was not her time to go.
I wish I could have told her how talented of a writer she was. I wish I could have told her how much she helped others by the words she wrote.
But I will never be able to tell her those things. No one ever will.
I'm sure it didn't cross her mind that this would affect people she barely knew. And just think, if this devastated me — an acquaintance, I cannot even imagine what those close to her are feeling.
I wish she would have known this.
Today, I found out that a woman who blogged with The Oakland Press died from an apparent self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head, accordi...
Do you remember on Christmas Eve, when you could barely sleep at night because you were so excited for Santa to come?
As you got older, do you remember being excited to pick out your first homecoming or prom dress? Do you remember counting down the days until the dance?
I have always been the kind of person who was easily excited about things, even as I went into college. Whether it was a Halloween party or the premiere of a movie I wanted to see. I would look forward to things for weeks.
But is there an age where this changes? Where you no longer get excited about things?
I remember asking older family members, "Are you excited for such and such?" And they would look at me like they had forgotten what the word "Excited" meant.
And I was always scared of losing that childlike wonder and joy about even the smallest of things.
I think that maybe it's because, as you get older, you know about disappointment. You find out that things don't always go the way you plan. And so in order to prevent yourself from being disappointed, you try not to get excited. You try not to look forward to things.
I've noticed myself getting more and more like this. With things I used to get excited about, instead, I can feel myself pretending that it won't happen. In my mind, if it doesn't end up happening, I won't be as disappointed because I expected it. And, if it does end up happening, I will be pleasantly surprised.
But this kind of feels like a numb existence — living each day expecting to get disappointed. Excitement is what gets you through the daily routine. After all, if you're excited about what the next day will bring, you will keep on living. You won't give up.
Sure, you may get disappointed. But life is an adventure. You never know what will happen tomorrow or the day after that. I think that's pretty exciting, don't you?
And, instead of relying on others to make your life exciting, rely on yourself. You are the only person you know will always be there, no matter what. So make your own life exciting. Make your own goals to work toward — whether it's writing a book, applying for a new career, etc.
Learn to do something new — like taking an art class, guitar lessons, tennis lessons, a cooking class, etc. And drop the things you aren't passionate about. It's your life, no one else's, and it shouldn't be wasted on things you don't love to do.
And, like Jonathan Mead says on the website Zen Habits, "Focus on what matters and stop stressing so much that you’re no longer enjoying life. … On your deathbed do you really think you’re going to be thinking about the to-do list you didn’t complete? I don’t think so. You’ll probably be thinking about how you wished you would have had more fun, spent more time with your family and enjoyed life more."
Visit the website Live Bold and Bloom for 26 simple ways to make your life more exciting.
Getty Images Do you remember when your parents would tell you that you were going to Disney World, or some other vacation, and you were ...
It's easy to think of Katy Perry as happy-go-lucky. You would mistakenly think she leads a charmed life — known as the first woman, and second artist following Michael Jackson, in the 55-year history of the Billboard Hot 100 to have five songs from the same album hit number one.
But just because she smiles for the paparazzi and dances around stage in skimpy animal print outfits during her shows, no one knew what she was dealing with at the end of the day.
After her break-up from comedian Russell Brand, when she was laying on the bathroom floor, she was a completely different Katy. After all, what can you expect when her husband of 14 months, who promised to love her "for better and for worse," told her he wanted a divorce through a text message of all things. I would be pretty devastated too.
Sometimes it's easy to forget that celebrities are humans too. But the black-haired beauty proved that, just like many people have felt at one time or another, she too knows what it feels like to second guess life and wonder if it would be better just to end it.
Perry recently admitted to Billboard that, after her relationship fell apart, she considered suicide.
"I asked myself, 'Do I want to endure? Should I continue living?'" she told Billboard's Ryan McGinley.
McGinley said in the article that, during the interview, Perry bared zero resemblance to the cotton candied persona she had crafted for herself. She wore no makeup, her hair was pulled back, she wore black Adidas workout tights and a faded hoodie over a "Christian Death Metal" T-shirt.
Her album PRISM, due out Oct. 22, is obviously much darker than her previous albums. In her new song "By the Grace of God," she sings,"Thought I wasn't enough, found I wasn't so tough. Laying on the bathroom floor. We were living on a front line and I felt the fall was on mine. Couldn't take it anymore."
She could have easily kept up the illusion that fans came to know her as. But the fact that she confesses these suicidal thoughts made me respect her.
I think many people can relate to these feelings. After the end of a relationship you thought was going to last forever, it's difficult not to wonder what you did wrong — even if it's not your fault at all. It's difficult to believe that things will get better.
I think those going through what she did should make this song their anthem and learn from the words that end the song:
"I know I am enough, possible to be loved
It was none about me
Now I have to raise above
Let the Universe call the bluff
Yeah, the truth will set you free
By the grace of God
There was no other way
I picked myself back up
I knew I had to say
I put one foot in front of the other and
Looked in the mirror and decided to stay
Wasn't gonna let love take me out that way."
When I think of singer Katy Perry, I picture the bright colored costumes — like her lollipop dress— or her neon hair styles. I think of he...
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Does this seem like how the two of them are today?
AP Photo "T here's good in all of us and I think I simply love people too much, so much that it makes me feel too f**king sad....
Success doesn't happen overnight, and that there are many people going through what you are going through. You are not alone.
Also, remember you entitled to certain benefits. Claim them as soon as possible. Sure, you will have to reduce your daily expenses after losing a job, but that doesn't mean you have to be completely without money.
And, above all, don't be afraid to ask for help. Someone else may have been exactly where you are right now and you didn't even know it.
A large part of most people's identity is in the job they have. I know for me, if I'm asked to describe myself, one of the first ...
|From Fall Out Boy's Facebook page|
I relived my high school and early college years this weekend by attending their concert at the Palace of Auburn Hills and head banging to their hits from the early 2000s, such as "Sugar We're Going Down."
During the concert, Wentz, 34, mentioned their four-year long hiatus — admitting that they never planned to return to the music scene. He said the reason they decided to write new music is because the songs they heard repeatedly on the radio recently were mostly about topics such as "popping bottles." They wanted to come back to represent the outcasts.
I think this was honorable for the band to do. I feel that musicians have the rare opportunity to illicit a feeling in their fans and make people not feel alone.
After going to the concert, I was inspired to research what had happened in Wentz's life. In addition to a divorce from fellow singer Ashlee Simpson in 2010 and a leak of a nude photo, as it turns out, he has plenty of life experiences to draw upon for his songs.
Unbeknownst to me, eight years ago Wentz tried to kill himself by overdosing on Ativan anxiety pills while sitting in his car in a Best Buy parking lot.
Wentz said, "I called up my manager because I was, at that point, completely out of my head with Ativan. And I was talking to him and I was slurring my words, so he called my mom and my mom called me and she came and got me and we went to the hospital."
In an interview with Jed Foundation's Half of Us campaign, which works to decrease youth suicide rates, Wentz said his doctors aimed just to keep his head above water. But Wentz said, to survive, people need to focus on more than just getting by.
"It's about feeling all right and feeling safe in your own skin," he said.
He gave this advice to those suffering from depression — allow yourself to be unhappy. He says when he is unhappy, he will now express it. And in turn, with the help of his 4-year-old son Bronx Mowgli, he is able to handle life's ups and downs better.
I think talking about it is essential in overcoming mental illness. And I'm so grateful for the celebrities who, instead of using their fame to talk about boozing it up or having a lot of sex, use their fame for something worth while — like trying to erase the stigma of mental illness. Because I think that is one of the biggest culprits of suicide — being afraid to talk about it and keeping it all inside until, one day, you just can't take it anymore.
Slideshow: Photos from the sold-out Fall Out Boy concert at the Palace of Auburn Hills.
From Fall Out Boy's Facebook page In high school, I admittedly had a crush on bassist Pete Wentz of the punk rock band Fall Out Boy...
They need to be held accountable. And they need to go through some kind of counseling to show them that this is not right — and prevent them for torturing another person in this same way.
In the newsroom next to my desk is a television that is constantly playing CNN in the afternoon so, if any national disasters occur, we wi...
|Photo from "Ruby Sparks"|
Everyone has their quirks. It's part of being human. I'm sure my quirks would need more than two hands to be counted on.
But you shouldn't feel the need to apologize for who you are. And if anyone tries to change you and train you, as if you're their pet instead of a human being, please don't think that there is something wrong with you. If someone can't accept you for the person you are, then that's not a healthy relationship and it's not something you should have to put up with.
I watched the movie "Ruby Sparks" last night -- a movie about an author who makes up a fictional girlfriend who then comes to life. And, when the girl does something he doesn't like, he goes to his typewriter, and he changes her. Yet, when he tries to change her, their problems only get worse.
That's because people aren't your own personal Barbie doll or, in this case, your own character in your own personal novel. People are unpredictable. And that means, sometimes, they disappoint you.
The main character's brother Harry says about his wife, in one of my favorite lines, "I love Susie, but she's a weirdo." He says this in an attempt to tell his brother Calvin that love isn't perfect and, living with someone day after day, you see their quirks. You see how weird they are. That's real life.
Aren't we all weirdos?
I think there's beauty in imperfections. Accept these things about yourself, because no one is perfect. Anyone who tries to change this about you isn't worth your time. And, I can guarantee you, that the person who is trying to change you definitely isn't perfect either.
Never settle for anything less than someone who loves you for how weird you are.
Photo from "Ruby Sparks" You can't change people. Everyone has their quirks. It's part of being human. I'm sure ...
Have you ever felt like this? I definitely have!
Some people give reasons such as to see how the shows "Game of Thrones" or "Pretty Little Liars" end. Or they gave different foods as their reasons to live -- such as pizza, bacon and cheesecake. And I say, hey, anything that makes you want to live one more day is a good enough reason for me.
To me, whenever things get hard, this thought is always what gets me through -- the possibility that the future will be better.
And, if you end your life, you will never be able to see the "better." You will never be able to see what your future holds.
If you can't think of any reasons to live, here are some more ideas. And, whenever you are feeling down, look at these reasons to remind yourself why you are here.
I was really excited to go on to Twitter today and see that the hashtag #Reasonstolive was trending. It was good, for once, to see an inspi...
For me, I remember when attending middle school at St. Joseph Catholic School in Lake Orion, I was late coming outside for my mom to pick me up. Out the window, I could see my mom's car at the curb, waiting for me. So I started running, full speed. And I rammed my face right into a window -- thinking it was an open door. I imagined I resembled a bird who flies right into a clean glass window, trying to get inside a person's house.
Surprisingly, when asking this question on our Facebook page, I got more responses than I expected of people willing to publicly share these traumatizing moments (this will be in the paper this weekend, FYI).
Kara Markusen remembers an incident during her first week of freshmen year at Gabriel Richard Catholic High School in Riverview — which sparked a phone call to her mom at work, saying, “I just had the most embarrassing day of my life.”
“In between classes, when the entire school is out in the halls, I was walking and talking with a guy in my class. I tripped over his foot and went flying down an entire flight of stairs — superman style, headfirst with my arms and legs straight out — through a crowd of people,” Markusen said. “My books went everywhere, my nylons were torn, my legs were bleeding and my skirt had even flipped up. I was mortified. In the cafeteria that day, the senior guys kept giving umpire signals, yelling, ‘She's safe!’”
About 40 years later, Clarkston native Tammie Heazlit still remembers her most embarrassing moment.
“Wetting my pants in front of the entire split third and fourth grade class at Clarkston Elementary because I was too intimidated to ask to go to the bathroom,” she said. “My mom had to bring clean clothes. My lesson — don't eat four pieces of watermelon when I went home for lunch.”
She added, “It's a long time ago, and I think it just demonstrates that, what might seem horrific at the time, with time and weathering, it's better to look back and laugh.”
I think, for many kids, these embarrassing moments feel like the end of the world. What they don't take into perspective is that EVERYONE has gone through this. And, as adults, they've turned out okay and these moments are hardly ever thought about again.
But it's easy to live in the here and now. And, when kids are pointing and laughing, it's hard to think into the future that things will get better and that, someday, it may be something to laugh about.
Sometimes, with this mindset, it's easy to make the rash decision that life isn't worth living at all.
Which just isn't true.
I'm hoping children and teens will read this and find comfort -- to know that they are not alone and to know that they should not let this moment or moments ruin their lives.
After all, we all graduate someday and never have to see these people who made fun of us ever again.
And remember this advice by Oxford Township resident James Hall, "Find the humor in the embarrassment and laugh with them, versus letting them laugh at you.”
I came up with the idea to write a story for The Oakland Press, with school starting up next week, of local residents sharing their most e...
If you are diagnosed with a mental disorder, don't consider it a debilitating disease.
For me, I have always believed that people with mental disorders are more creative than so-called "normal people." And studies prove this — that writers have a higher risk of anxiety and bipolar disorders, schizophrenia, unipolar depression, and substance abuse (being a writer myself, I don't doubt this).
The Huffington Post reports that researchers at the Karolinska Institute near Stockholm found that families with a history of bipolar disorder and schizophrenia were more likely to produce artists and scientists.
Instead of dwelling on the obvious negative effects of a mental disorder, use it to your advantage. Maybe this will show you that, as much of a pain it may seem, there's a reason why you are the way you are.
Instead of staying isolated in your bedroom, which may seem desirable on some days, use your talents. Show them to the world instead of hiding it. And use this to raise awareness of mental illness instead of being ashamed.
Because, as I always say, there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Max Bemis, lead singer of the band Say Anything, does this. In the last few months, I have been listening to their songs a lot.
And I have to admit, I have a newfound appreciation for this band that I first heard about senior year of high school. And I have noticed how "real" and creative their songs are.
So it wasn't too surprising when I found out Bemis was diagnosed with bipolar disorder since I've always thought that the best artists, well, they can't be "normal."
And Bemis does not hide his disorder. It is actually a topic in many of his songs.
For instance, in the song Church Channel, he sings:
I wake up in a room and realize I'm insane again
This is the fifth time straight in a year
I've ended up in here
Eating pbjs and watching the church channel nightly
I didn't mind what I did
I fell behind on my nightly four-course meal of rainbow pills
And now I'm wondering what is fake and what is real
Before Bemis knew what was wrong, while he was in college, he would smoke pot during his lows. Which would bring him into an even deeper low, he said.
While in the middle of recording his first album, Bemis reached his breaking point. He became very paranoid – in essence, thinking he was in “The Truman Show,” Bemis said in an interview. He said this marked his first “manic break,” and he thought he was going to die.
“It was, I think, one of the most frightening moments in my life,” he said, adding that he went around Brooklyn, screaming at strangers and was sent to the hospital for one week.
And in that week, he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Bemis said, it took him three years to accept this diagnosis.
Bemis offered this advice: "You're not alone. ... There are so many cool people with these issues. These issues make you cool in your own way."
He said, more and more, as he has spoken up about the disease, people are becoming more accepting of the disease. Sometimes, if you let go of your self consciousness about mental illness, you'll realize you're not as different as you think.
And, as Bemis said, "People can be like, 'Wow, this guy is really awesome because of this."
It's not always a bad thing. It just depends how you look at it.
If you are diagnosed with a mental disorder, don't consider it a debilitating disease. For me, I have always believed tha...
This was one of the comments on NY Daily News after former Bachelor contestant Gia Allemand was taken off life support yesterday after her boyfriend found her hanging in her New Orleans home.
On the outside, she lived a charmed life — a former Maxim model and reality TV star who was dating an NBA player. Her Instagram account was filled with photos of her smiling, partying with friends, her dog Benny and quotes such as, "Legend says, when you can't sleep at night, it's because you're awake in someone else's dream."
Allemand, who had more than 60,000 followers on Twitter, seemed like any other 20-something-year-old woman who loved shoes and make-up and getting her hair done.
But now, in hindsight, we can see that this was all just a facade. There was so much more going on beneath the surface than the beautiful happy-go-lucky girl she let the world see.
Her friends said they knew Allemand had demons she fought to overcome, reports NY Daily News.
"I could tell there was some insecurity going (on)," her friend Reid Rosenthal, a contestant on season five of "The Bachelorette,” told FOX 411.
“Beauty and the Geek” host Brian McFayden also said she had a lot of insecurities and was looking for attention from guys.
For those suffering from depression, insecurity is like a constant whisper in their ears — and no matter how many times others may say, "You're beautiful," it doesn't matter if they don't believe it.
I know I can definitely relate to this. And I think a lot of other people can relate to it too.
And it doesn't help when people say, "You have no reason to feel bad about yourself," or "How can you be sad when your life is so good!"
It doesn't matter what your life may seem like on the outside or even if you're a model. Depression is a disease that attacks the mind. And I think the first step in accepting this is to learn that you can't always control how you feel. And you shouldn't feel guilty for the way you feel.
It only makes things worse when others make you feel like, "Look at your life — you don't deserve to be sad."
There is no face or prototype to mental disorders. The disease can, and has, hit all kinds of people. First, you need to realize that it isn't your fault before you can truly accept yourself as you are.
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This is what happened yesterday when employees arrived to work at Industrial Experimental Technologies in Auburn Hills. They found a 48-year-old Oakland County woman face down with what appeared to be self-inflicted lacerations on the inside of her arms, reports John Turk of The Oakland Press.
The employees were obviously shaken, and this will surely be an image that will stick in their minds forever — and probably replayed itself over and over as they tried to fall asleep last night. This event could possibly affect their state of mental health as well. A vicious circle.
This is something I don't think a person could ever really get over. I know, for me personally, I would never get over it.
One of the most public suicides within the last 50 years was that of Christine Chubbuck, a news anchor in Florida. She went through the newscast, covering three national news stories and a local restaurant shooting from the previous day. She ended by saying, "In keeping with Channel 40's policy of bringing you the latest in 'blood and guts' and in living color, you are going to see another first — attempted suicide." She then drew a gun, shot herself behind the ear, slumped forward and was pronounced dead 14 hours later.
I don't know about you, but this is not something I would want to be remembered for. I would not want this to be the last image people had of me. And I would especially not want the image of my dead body to be what people — strangers even — replayed in their heads day after day and, likely, remembered for the rest of their lives.
Forevermore, people will not remember you for your accomplishments, but for this.
When Google searching "Christine Chubbuck," every search talks about her "live on-air suicide." No, she is not remembered for the things she did in her life or for the stories she covered. Instead she is remembered for the gruesome way in which she died.
Authorities have been looking into how to prevent public deaths, specifically the most common public suicide of jumping from a bridge, with preventive measures such as concrete barriers, suicide hot line phones or safety nets hanging from bridges.
Kevin Hines, who survived a leap from the Golden Gate Bridge in 2000, told The Associated Press, "I would never have jumped off that bridge" if there had been obstructions in the way."
Most importantly, if someone posts on social media about suicide or if you see someone in a public place about to commit suicide, take it seriously and call 9-1-1 immediately.
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But what if this voice was not coming from a person? What if, for hours everyday, you heard someone talking to you or about you — even when you're alone?
But with these voices, you never truly feel alone. The voices see everything you see, hear everything you hear and insert thoughts into your head. But, unlike your own thoughts, these are thoughts you cannot control. And you have no idea what the voice is going to say next.
This would be completely terrifying.
So I was not too surprised when I heard that kids who hear voices may be at a high suicide risk. In a new study of 1,112 teens age 13 to 16 in Ireland, hearing voices was linked to a nearly 70-fold higher likelihood of a suicide attempt over the course of a year. Of those studied, Reuters reports that 77 of the teens reported hearing voices or other sounds that weren't there. Of these kids, 20 percent reported attempting suicide within the year — compared to 2.5 percent of the kids who didn't hear voices.
Some people's voices are guiding and inspiring. Others are abusive — telling them to do things or making them feel bad about themselves. I'm sure that the content of what these voices are telling the teens is also linked to the likelihood of suicide attempts.
Looking at a schizophrenia forum, one anonymous person said that the voice in his head constantly reminds him of the wrongs he has done and tells him he doesn't deserve sleep.
One person said in response something that I think could be beneficial to anyone going through this — "You are special, you have a condition that makes you special, do not let the disorder take away your purpose, use medication to find rest from suffering and chaos. Do not give up hope, keep trying."
Some advice — talk to other voice hearers. Groups can be found on hearingvoicesusa.org. Founded in 2010, the Hearing Voices Network USA represents a partnership between individuals who hear voices or have other extreme or unusual experiences, professionals and allies in the community, all of whom are working together to change the assumptions made about these phenomenon and create supports, learning and healing opportunities for people across the country.
Don't be afraid to discuss these voices in your head. By learning from others experiences, you can learn the tricks of these voices in your head and try to block out what it's saying.
Mentalhealth.org says that it's imperative to accept the voices as part of yourself — instead of considering it as something wrong with you. Try not to feel powerless. These voices are inside your head. A psychiatrist can teach you how to have influence over these voices…instead of the voices having influence over you.
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For me, it was when I realized that I no longer can eat whatever I want. Last weekend, I tried on all my shorts from the previous year and, guess what, none of them fit. If I could even get the pants over my thighs, the zipper surely wouldn’t zip and the button definitely wouldn’t close.
To make things worse, this week I tried on a couple of pants that, only three months ago, fit perfectly. Now, I can't even button them. This morning, I tried to put on a pair of pants -- and the button snapped off. It's as if, practically overnight, my metabolism plummeted. And with it went some of my self-confidence as well.
Although this may seem like a small problem to some, to me, all I could think was, "I have officially crossed over the point of no return."
I can no longer eat fast food whenever I'm too lazy to cook (which is, usually, multiple times a week. Which explains why I can no longer fit into my pants). I am sure I will react similarly when I find my first grey hair. Geez, becoming an adult can be scary.
But, the more I thought about it, the more I thought, "If you're lucky, these things happen to everyone." After all, the alternative is worse. And, as my dad has always told me, "It only matters how old you feel."
Here are some ways to cope with the inevitable transition of getting older:
1. Stop thinking about "age milestones" you think you're supposed to meet. Sure, in your parents generation, it may have been normal to get married in your 20's. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you if you don't get married then. After all, haven't you ever watched "Sex and the City?" In this generation, these so-called age milestones are going by the wayside.
To me, this is comforting to know that we can be our own person, do what we want with our lives and not have to worry about these once-significant "time periods."
2. Exercise. Not only will this make you stay healthy, but it will also make you look and feel younger.
My dad is in his 70's, but he looks like he's 20 years younger and acts more like he's in his 30's. And I think the fact that he works out five days a week definitely helps him.
3. At least once a week, do something fun and plan something to look forward to.
As an adult, we get into a daily routine. But every once in a while, you need to let loose and do something that makes you not feel so much like an adult -- even something as simple as swinging on the swings at your local park or dancing around your bedroom.
4. Don't lose touch with friends. I know that for many people, getting older means losing touch with those we once cared about. At least once a month, make it a point to meet up with your high school or college friends to catch up -- whether it's hanging out at one of your houses or drinking a cosmopolitan.
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The Veterans Education and Research Association of Northern England are trying to find out with the Durkheim Project. Anonymous U.S. veterans who opt in to share their social media and mobile phone data will be studied, reports allFacebook.com. This data will be studied to see if it is correlated with tendencies for harmful behaviors. The data will be safeguarded by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
I'm personally not sure how telling this will be. Even though the veterans will remain anonymous, they still know they are being studied. And I think, for most people, they would watch what they say in a text message if they knew it was being forwarded to the government. Even if it was subconsciously, there are certain things people wouldn't say. For a person who may send sexually explicit text messages on a regular basis, for instance, or send naked pictures, this probably would no longer happen during this study.
So, while I do think Facebook statuses and text messages could serve as a direct link to suicidal tendencies, I personally think this study will be flawed. The text messages that would most likely predict self harming behavior will probably be severely edited during this study. At least I know if it were me taking part in this study, that's what I would do — even if I didn't do it on purpose.
But, while I don't have any scientific evidence to back me up, I do think that, many times, the two are correlated. For example, the day Paris Jackson, the daughter of the late-King of Pop Michael Jackson, attempted suicide, she posted on her Twitter account, "Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay."
I think if someone is posting ambiguous statuses or Tweets referencing losing hope or giving up, this could be a sign. And, when posting this online, they are reaching out for help. Be there for them. Send them a message, a text message or call them ASAP and ask what is wrong.
When someone is contemplating suicide, he or she is not in the right mind. And, when locked in their bedroom with only a cell phone, chances are, they will talk to somebody privately -- or publicly. I know that, looking back on times in my life when I was depressed, this was when I would text friends or post sad song lyrics on Facebook. A depressed person combined with a phone can be a dangerous combination. I'm pretty sure this is when I've said some of the most embarrassing and/or uncharacteristic things. But, in that mindset, I'm was just hoping that someone would respond and help me feel better.
This could be a last ditch effort, when feeling completely alone, to see if people do care about them. So when you get a text from a friend or see a Facebook status that raises a red flag, don't ignore it. This could make the difference between life and death.
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